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Hey, there Beloved!
Wow, look how far you came even I see the progress. Don’t try to ditch the process I see what it took for you to get where you are.
Sometimes we can’t let go of the past and we keep packing it in our bags everywhere we go. Why is that? If you are planning ahead for bigger and better why do you need a constant reminder of your failures 15 + years ago? People who are not confident in their future will distract and interrupt yours. Don’t be one of those ppl who need pain in order to succeed. If it has to bring me sorrow I don’t want it. The Bible even said: Proverbs 10:22 “The good that comes from the Lord makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow to it” Continue reading “Don’t give up you came a long way”
The first steps toward transforming your dating life
I have agreed to review Love Lounge: A Journal for singles in exchange for a review. Views and opinions are my own. The journal is created to accompany her new coaching & matchmaking services set to roll out in 2018.
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LOVE LOUNGE has about 4 sections and 44 pages from Dating History – 1st Impression. One of my favorite “Quotes For The Heart” that is quoted in LOVE LOUNGE is “A bitter woman says “all men are the same” a wise woman decides to stop choosing the same type of guy” How real was that? I definitely agree. I believe having a standard will help you “stand” your ground to what you really want and stop going for the same type of guys.
There’s a question asking about our last date and details about our date. In my opinion I feel like this is a time where men are asking you out to eat instead of an actual date, because the “dinner” is a way to think they’re just taking it straight to 3rd base, but then most guys are not even going that far by asking you out anymore they just want to “Netflix and Chill” the last date I been on was in 2015 and it was nice to be taken out but it also turned me off for him to jokingly say “we could have gone Dutch” at the time I was like what’s that? It’s when you pay your half of the date. Then he also mentioned that we were not going to be doing this all the time I’m thinking like “excuse me” we are not even married and he’s already putting restrictions on our dates. I understand being broke in college but if you want to penny pinch through life leave me out of it.
Section 2 of LOVE LOUNGE is all about ME, MYSELF, & I . . .
I reflected on one of the questions. Did your partner give you hints to their unhappiness, challenges with communication, etc? I feel like when someone is done with you they are not looking to work things out whether you’re right or wrong they just want to leave. If someone wants to go let them it’s not a marriage you are trying to mend back together and even with that you still can’t force it I’m divorced I know. Not all men want you fighting for them.
Section 3 of LOVE LOUNGE is all about Writing The Vision . . .
I think this is a really fun section because you get to write out what you want. I want to ask married couples. How many of them wrote out what they wanted in their ideal mate? And actually, have been fulfilled with the traits they looked for. When you really think about it and ask yourself what is it about this person that I allowed their non-negotiables in my life? Do their non-negotiable makeup for who they are?
Here’s another fun exercise asking where do your ideal mate spend their leisure time? I never really thought to hang out where my ideal guy would be I guess depending on your type you’ll know whether you should be at the library or a sports bar. Not that I am the one to go to church and expect a man after service.
Section 4 of LOVE LOUNGE is all about The 1st Impression . . .
What kind of first impressions are you making?
One of my favorite things to do. Cut out styles that closely reflect my personal style It’s like making a mini style vision board. This turned on the lights in my head to think hmm… being mindful of how people (men) are perceiving me. Do I look presentable, are they turned away because I have a style that doesn’t match them, or maybe the women who want to be found but come out with scarves on their heads and pajamas (ikr) sidenote: this is my actual style and how I dress I didn’t make this up I went through a lot of magazines to find my style for less or more. I couldn’t fit everything.
And last but not least the 1st date tracker? Yeah, I know we gotta relive and backtrack our last 3 dates and no I don’t have plans on seeing any of them again.
Again DE’VIZIA & COMPANY journals are created to accompany her new coaching & matchmaking services set to roll out in 2018 and if you would like more info and this is something you believe you need that will help you on your dating journey stop by DE’VIZIA & COMPANY
Love Lounge Journal for Singles was a great accompanying resource to my previous “Wifing it Network” training with Pastor Cora Jakes Coleman teaching me how to become a great wife. I definitely recommend the journal to all Single Women. It is and will be helpful to you as well. I learned a lot about myself on why I stay to myself and rather not date and what I look for when I date. I’m telling you DE’VIZIA & COMPANY will make a difference in your dating life.
Here is the confidence boost that you are looking for. Stop needing people to tell you things in order to feel confident. Yup, that was it.
Be confident in who you are I’m learning this as well and not so much for my looks and beauty but knowing who I am and what I do or have done. You might not get to enjoy the fruits with the person you inspired, motivated, encouraged, or whatever you done for this person knowing you played a part and being able to have the confidence that it was you who pushed them to that next level or inspired their next idea. Walk with your head held high without asking for any handouts.
1. Stop comparing. Stay focused on you.
2. Relax and go with the flow. Don’t stress the little things.
3. Love yourself. You are a gift and nothing would be the same if you didn’t exist.
4. Be positive and look for the good in every situation.
5. Do what you love. Life is too short to waste your time doing anything otherwise.
Hope this will help you be more confident in who you are. In the comments below let me know of any other ways to be more confident.
My favorite Southwest Salad made easy right from home no cutting, chopping, or blending but if you cook your corn then you’ll need to do that. The reason why there’s nothing to cut is because I was trying to think of a salad recipe where I didn’t have to do much but throw things in a bowl, mix and eat. Definitely, save prepping time.
I would definitely call this my signature salad recipe because it’s easy to make and everything I like in my salad I think if I added anything else I’m just being greedy. How about you?
Once I tried A Southwest Grilled Chicken Salad from McDonald’s I was like yummy this is really good I can make this at home with the ingredients of my choice. It’s very similar to a McDonald’s Southwest Salad without the chicken. If you ever have time check out how McDonald’s make their salad’s go grab some ideas for your next get together.
Here are my ingredients:
50/50 Blend: baby spinach and spring mix
Southwest flavor tortilla strips
Dried & sweet Cranberries
Sunflower seeds (kernels) I prefer ranch but the choice is yours
Ranch salad dressing (optional) your choice